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the hardest thing about divorce, when there are kids from the union that is broken, is that individual parents become unable to help their kids solve some problems. certainly there are problems that kids encounter for which the parents are not able to solve. it's just that in a divorce situation there are problems for which each parent lacks sufficient credibility in helping resolve because of the fracture of the original union. while one parent may be able to help in addressing issues for the kids that may pertain to other portions of their life, anything pertaining to the other parent is a matter for which the other parent is rarely, if ever, able to really help in bringing about a resolution...the divorce fractures a level of connectedness that isn't able to be bridged with sufficient validity. the parent is left to trust in the kids. and, in actuality, that is the best gift to share with a child of any age. it just doesn't feel all that sufficient.

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every so often i find myself in situations/places in which, though by my own choice, i am not best suited. currently that such situation/place is on the board of directors of the employee assistance society of north america. oh, i believe i have already made some contributions to mission and operations of the association. yet, i am amongst a group of thinkers and visionaries who are generally good at giving directions though not so inclined to jump in an do the work directly. and that is only appropriate...directors give direction to those who implement the directions. i have now been on three advisory boards...one a board of education, one a board of a christian theatre company. in all three experiences, i have found myself too involved in operations and unable to maintain the focus of the discussions of each board...those being discussions about building membership and raising money. to that end, i find myself increasingly unfit for the functions of the church committee i am part of that deals with a sistering relationship with a community in el salvador. oh, i am very passionate about the people of that community, just as i was very passionate about the students and the mission of the theatre company and the profession to which i find my career. yet, directing at an association level is not my proverbial cup of tea. i am a grunt, better suited to the trenches and leaving the directions and strategic plans and goal-setting and fund raising to a group of folks to which i am not best suited to engage